HOW TO LOVE & CARE FOR YOURSELF | Selfless love is harmful | Choosing yourself is difficult but necessary

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So today we're gonna talk about how to priorities your self furst & love yourself

Let's start with my week first

             I am doing just fine right now but last week was full of emotional ride. One day i was ok another day i was overwhelmed by so many things, feelings which were not real but only in my mind but i am fine right now. What i learn from last few days is that you have to prioritise yourself first. We need to Show our self some love and care too. I thought about sharing my thoughts with you coz i think we all somewhere forget our self's so let's start today's blog i really wish u all will like this and stay with me on this new journey..

          So i divide this in 3 main points. Hope that will help you understand this & to love and care about yourself and prioritise yourself first.

1.Selfless Love is harmful for yourself :

                 Why i am saying this because i know when you love someone so much and they don't give you that love back you feel sad and bad about yourself and sometimes you don't even think about are they giving the love you are giving them back??  That's why it's called selfless love because you dont care about yourself that much or sometimes not at all. 

              It is harmful for you because when you love selflessly you forget that you also need some love and care and when they take us for granted and we realize that then we feel sadness, we feel like we are giving so much still why that person is not giving me any importance but the answer is simple because you, yourself not giving any important to you then why would anyone would give you that much importance. 

             You need to learn how to give yourself importance first then others will give you that importance. If you think that selflessly loving someone i am not just talking about your lover i am talking about every relationship you have in your life.

             If you think selflessly loving someone is sign of true love it is but when you selflessly do something and they selflessly do something back that is true love otherwise it is only one sided love. It is bitter truth but it is what it is. 

          If your are the only one who is showing love and they are just accepting and being nice to you and that's it, that's all they don't love you. If They are just taking all the good things from you and not giving back they Don't deserve your selfless love trust me.

           If you are saying but they are being nice to me. Off course they are gonna be nice to you because you are giving them so much if they are not even being nice they are piece of shit. If they are nice to you and not giving or putting any other effort understand it's not their fault, it is your fault that you are the one who is taking yourself for granted and that's why other people think ohh she is just fine without me putting any effort. 

     Then why anyone would give you love and care back when they think you are just fine without that. No one likes to work harder if there's no need. So again bitter truth but it's our fault that we take our self for granted. 

2.Prioritise Yourself First :

                 I think prioritising yourself is most important thing you need and should do. I am not saying you should not prioritise your family and friends but sometimes u need to give yourself that time too. You have to spend your time with your self doing something you really enjoy like dancing with yourself or walking , reading or anything that you enjoy. Just like you give time to your loved ones you need to give some time to yourself too. 

Niw let's talk about

How to prioritise yourself :-

         Let's say if you want to spend a evening with yourself and someone calls you and tells you to join them just say No you don't have to go if you just want to stay at home and chill. I know you will think if i am not doing anything then how can i say No that's how you prioritise yourself girl. Say Yes if you want to but if you Don't want to just say No. If you think that's rude to say No like that then just be little Polite and say i am not feeling like going out today or i am very tired today so you go and have fun I'll come some other day..or anything like that. That's how you make your self a priority. Just learn how to say No in a polite way.

3. Show yourself some Self love & Care :

               You know this one we all know how to show love and care just not to our selves be cause we forget that we equally deserve that love and care too. That's normal we all forget that. We always take things we have for granted that's why just lile other people take us for granted we take our self for granted too. But now it's time for us to give some love and care to our self that we give our loved ones so often. 

Let's talk about the how

           

How to Love and Care For Yourself :

              Ok so we all know how to show love to others right? That's most easiest thing we do but when it comes to self love and care it is difficult. I know it is i am not gonna say ohh no its easy or anything like that because it's not when we don't even know where to start how to do.   

         Self love is when you  are just with yourself and feeling happiness. So now you just have to find a way to make yourself happy. Do something which makes you forget about time. Just Like i said before dance with yourself or walk or write or read some books. And it doesn't need to be 1 thing. It can be 1 or 10 things that makes you happy. If you have more then one you can try to switch things around and if you don't know what you enjoy try new and simple things. I would highly suggest Reading, walking/running, Yoga, dancing (you dont have to be a dancer you can be silly while dancing coz it's just you anyway) start with these little things maybe you will find something you like or you can just search on google, Pinterest for some more suggestions  which you can do with yourself.

              So that's it for today i hope i made some sense and helped you in anyway. If you liked this stay tuned for next one.. B byeee... Loads of love..❤